This is me and my nursing buddies. I couldn’t be making it through this without them.
Just for fun, I once added up all the hours of actual classes, outside schoolwork and online lectures IN ADDITION to in class lecture, and recommended study hours per hour of class. Once I figured in about 4 hours of sleep….my week was full. I didn’t even factor in eating or showers (which often in real life, I kinda do forget about)
Being in this nursing program doesn’t allow for sick, full time work (it states that they really want us to NOT work full time through this in order to make it), or a social life.
And it’s been really hard to give up that last one…not having a social life has made me a Facebook and online junkie because I live through other people now, it’s my connection so that hermit life doesn’t become my norm. So I adjust and have been really proud to become addicted to school, to place my entire focus on it, knowing it’s what will get me my goals in life….for me and my kids.
Kids…remember those?? I try to. I do have 3 amazingly understanding kids but the time away from them is nearly impossible some days. Not feeling connected and on top of everything like I once was…it’s unspeakably weird. The entire weekends where we used to hang out on the couch and watch movies and go out ans do things have been replaced by me sitting in my “office/schoolroom” and them making visitations to me. My dedication and connection to my children had always been top priority and there’s a lot of guilt in taking them down from that highest shelf and placing them on the one right underneath and putting myself and all this craziness that is becoming a nurse on that top shelf instead.
I know some people really try and understand how life consuming my school is, but there are also plenty of people who toss ideas and suggestions and advice out there without fully grasping my schedule….just how much time I spend doing all this. While well intentioned, it’s also sometimes really infuriating when I hear stuff like “oh yeah my 50 hour work weeks are killer so I know how you feel.”…..sorry but you dont. Not to be cocky here but you don’t get it. For me it’s like putting in that 50 hour work week PLUS then coming home, eating something weird like oatmeal for dinner because it’s fast, and heading right up to my laptop, opening up my books and sitting there putting in MORE time after a full day of classes. While your work week sounds exhausting for you, you get to stop once you walk away from your work day. I would LOVE to only go to school, do my 12 hour class day and come home to do…. whatever I wanted. I don’t have that option if I want a good GPA, if I want to pass….If I want to be a nurse.
And I don’t fault anyone for their comments, I dont. I think we all try and relate
And here’s the thing….I’m not even doing ENOUGH right now. I am a B student….I used to pull all A’s, but realized that A’s would send me to the hospital for delirium and complete devestation of my health and family life. So I accept B, it’s not what I prefer but it’s what I should be proud of because being a B student beings I can still be a B parent, a B friend, a B partner to my most amazing supportive fiance.
Speaking of MY health….I think so often of other people’s health that mine falls dead last. I know it cant, it’s a juggle I haven’t learned yet but being sick is just not allowed. I have the utmost respect for the nurse going to her shift while not feeling good. Right now, a simple sinus issue has laid me flat as it has progressed into something more vicious because I can’t stop. I CANNOT take a day off and just sleep like I want to or I will fail. Every week there’s a test, or an exam or some kind of HESI case study or graded in class activity. Right now feeling like I am sick and pushing on feels horrible and I caved and got myself some amoxycillin.
I am still learning how to do this dance….still learning how to make sure.i can be everything to the people who need me…..family, friends, and patients. In four short weeks I will have completed nearly half of my program. And it has been amazing don’t get me wrong. My human dissection class was one of the best experiences I have had at school and passing meds and starting to function as a nurse on a floor is very humbling and awe inspiring.
I have so many things I know and can apply now, it is what keeps me going in all this craziness.
me: wow that exam was easy *gets a 53*
Every. Single. Nursing. Exam. Ever.
Which is why I no longer say any of them were “easy”. It’s like a kiss of death.
Yes. This exactly. No 53’s, but a 78.
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Amazing fiber art. I love this so much!!!
Only FIVE days until the 50th Anniversary special. I can honestly say, it will be the highlight of this semester so far :)
"What’s terrible is to pretend that second-rate is first-rate. To pretend that you don’t need love when you do; or you like your work when you know quite well you’re capable of better.”Doris Lessing